Attachment-based therapy

Attachment-based therapy explores early bonds and how they shaped your expectations of others and yourself. The therapy relationship offers a new, steadier experience of connection.

Attachment patterns are not fixed. With a consistent, attuned relationship, people can develop what researchers call earned security.

• Fear of abandonment or of being too much.
• Pulling away when things get close.
• Couples caught in pursue and withdraw cycles.
• Difficulty asking for or accepting support.
• Parenting questions shaped by your own upbringing.

We look at how you reach for others and how you protect yourself, both in your history and in your current relationships.

With couples, we slow down the cycles that keep partners apart and help each person express the needs underneath.

• What are attachment styles? Broad patterns, often described as secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganized. They are a starting point, not a label.
• Can this help my relationship? Yes. Attachment-based work is widely used in couples therapy.

• Psychodynamic Therapy→
• Relational Therapy→
• IFS (Internal Family Systems)→
• Somatic Therapy→
• EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)→

Sessions are offered by teletherapy anywhere in California, with in-person sessions available in San Diego. A free 15-minute phone consultation is the simplest first step.